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Being Alone – Is it always a bad thing?
The absolutely most important relationship you have in your life is with yourself. And this relationship can frequently be the most difficult one to cultivate because you are the only one who is...
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Resident Life Coach – Helping people on the radio
This week on Calder’s Confessions there were some very similar problems but from a variety of people in different walks of life. As before I have condensed the problems down for brevity and of course...
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Relationship anxiety
Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral: Suspiciousness Worrying about...
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Latest Calder’s Confessions radio show
As the resident Life Coach on Calder’s Confessions I am always interested to read the letters and emails people send in to the programme. I never know what to expect, and this is good for me as I have...
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Finding my emotions and feelings
A few years ago I was working my way through a relationship programme and my fabulous coach, Heather Williams, and I discovered I had a block. We discovered I couldn’t express my emotions or feel my...
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Do you always need to defend yourself?
Living with people who are verbally abusive or verbally aggressive can be very demanding on your time and energy. But does it have to be that way? The abusive or aggressive person often wants you to...
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What I have learned from business coaches
Over the past past four years or so I have worked with several business coaches. Each one is extremely successful in their field and each one has taught me something. Interestingly, what I have...
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Impacting lives
A year ago I verbalised that I intended to impact the lives of a million people and help them to become the authentic people that they are. Help them to rebuild their confidence in themselves and their...
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Friends and family who sap your positive energy
The people with whom you have the most contact and who hang around you will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence. We all know people who are positive,...
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Conquer the fear of failure
Fear of failure is probably the single, greatest obstacle to success in our adult lives. We become totally preoccupied with seeking approval and not making a mistake. The fear of failure is often...
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Relationship anxiety
Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral: Suspiciousness – Worrying...
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Friends come and go
I was considering why it is that friends come into our lives and some of them go out of our lives again. There are many and varied reasons I suspect, but for me I think that some people fall away...
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Do you always need to defend yourself?
Living with people who are verbally abusive or verbally aggressive can be very demanding on your time and energy. But does it have to be that way? The abusive or aggressive person often wants you to...
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How did I know I had low self-esteem? And how did I change that?
Low self-esteem manifests itself in a variety of ways, and I should know I have been there. For me the following was very true: I didn’t think I was good enough. I thought everyone else thought they...
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Maintaining our positive energy
The people with whom we have the most contact and hang around with will have either a positive or negative effect on our levels of self-esteem and confidence. We all know those people who are...
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Are you enjoying the most important relationship in your life?
The most important relationship you have in your life is with yourself. Even though you are the only one who is present at every moment of your life – from the moment of conception onward – this...
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The Best We Can Be – honouring our children
Everything we do and say in the presence of our children makes an impression on them. We may think we can get away with swearing or gossiping in front of them when they can’t talk, but we have...
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Holding Space For Others
We have all been called upon at one time or another to help a loved one through a difficult time. When the help required consists of concrete actions, such as running errands or making phone calls, we...
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Repressing Your Inner Voice
In many ways, we are taught from the time we are children to give away our power to others. When we were told to kiss and hug relatives or friends of the family when we didn’t want to, for example, we...
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Grumps
When we’re in a good mood, we shine like the sun. But if we find ourselves in the presence of a person, or people, in a grumpy mood, it can feel like a dark cloud is trying to block our radiance and...
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